The initial emotional responses to learning of a spousal extramarital affair can be all-engulfing. Naturally, you are the last one to learn about it. And now you know. Everything your life has been based on for years is now in question. You feel you can’t possibly go on together now that pain, sorrow, and anger are overwhelming you. You ask yourself endlessly why the person you married out of love doesn’t feel the same emotions regarding your marriage as you still feel despite the passage of time. But perhaps it doesn’t have to mean the ending of your marriage.

Though some might be inclined to run directly to a divorce attorney, there are reasons to stay married, even after an affair. Being human, it is very probable that even we have lusted after someone who is not our spouse at one time or another.

Source: Marriage