It is true that an sms break up is probably the quickest way to terminate a relationship. All you have to do is send at quick text message and boom…the relationship is over. You don’t have to argue for hours and you don’t have to deal with the other person’s negative emotions. It’s quick, it’s painless, and it’s even…a little unfair. Think about it for a second and put yourself in the shoes of the person receiving the text.

Image you are driving around in your car, running a few errands, and you receive a sudden sms break up message like this:

• I’ve been thinking about things. I’m not happy. It’s over.
• I’m tired of arguing. I don’t want to see you again.
• This is not working out. I’m going to see other people.

Not only is this sudden, but it doesn’t give the other person an opportunity to express themselves. Maybe you have had enough, maybe it is clear to you that things won’t work out, but that isn’t an excuse to send an sms break up. Instead of just grabbing your phone and typing an impulsive message, take a quick pause. First, make a list of trouble items that concern you about the relationship. Second, write a possible solution next to each trouble item. This will help you think through things and stop you from making an impulsive mistake you will regret later.

There are some basic things to consider if you want to break up with someone, but there is one thing in particular you cannot avoid: there is no effortless way to do it. There will be some conversation. Both people need an opportunity to express themselves. Many times, people want to break up too quickly because they were looking for the perfect relationship. Don’t go for the quick out. Avoid the sms break up and look for an opportunity to talk to your partner.